Tuesday, January 10

Ethical Communication

We must be ethical in everything we do. Second to our actions, speech is very important in communicating. We must always think things through before we say them, treat others as you would want to be treated, and make sure you are saying what you think you are saying and not implying anything else. Here are ten rules to follow in order to communicate ethically from Northern Virgina Ethical Society:
  1. Seek to “elicit the best” in communications and interactions with other group members.
  2. Listen when others speak.
  3. Speak non-judgmentally.
  4. Speak from your own experience and perspective, expressing your own thoughts, needs, and feelings.
  5. Seek to understand others (rather than to be “right” or “more ethical than thou”).
  6. Avoid speaking for others, for example by characterizing what others have said without checking your understanding, or by universalizing your opinions, beliefs, values, and conclusions.
  7. Manage your own personal boundaries: share only what you are comfortable sharing.
  8. Respect the personal boundaries of others.
  9. Avoid interrupting and side conversations.
  10. Make sure that everyone has time to speak, that all members have relatively equal “air time” if they want it. 
Here is another link that explain ethical communication and gives a few more rules to follow: Lane

Communication Anxiety

Communication Anxiety is the fear of speaking in front of others, especially big groups. It is actually a very common fear. Perhaps we fear speaking in front of others because we want others to like us and know that people are constantly judging us. While making a speech, though, we are more apt to be anxious because of the spotlight effect. The spotlight effect is defined as the tendency to believe that other people are paying closer attention to one's apperance or behavior than they really are. For more information on communication anxiety click here or check out this awesome blog just about communication anxiety: communication-anxiety.blogspot.com! Also for those of you who think they have communication anxiety this clip has always been one of my favorites to help me overcome some anxiety about speeches: (Fast forward to 6min) Paperclips..."like a lightening rod"

Communication Models

Here are some examples of the many ways to communicate effectively and ineffective:

A great Explanation of the Communication Model







Watch how easy it is to not communicate effectively.